Friday, January 28, 2011

One last time...to the Elks before I leave.


Last night in Florence. Mom makes the break again...Elks again. Today it's just the three of us and that's just fine. We have an extra drink, enjoy the music, I break out and learn a few line dances.  Mom stands up at her wheelchair and does a little two step to the music. It's all good on a Friday night.  Maybe this night and this feeling will last forever, or at least, maybe we'll remember it forever.  What's the best we can hope for?

For Peter...



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Thursday, January 27, 2011

for my friend Mary Margaret....

Operator
Oh could you help me
place this call?
'Cause I can't read the number
that you just gave me

There's something in my eyes
You know it happens every time
I think about the love
That I thought would save me

(chorus)

No, no, no, no
That's not the way it feels

Operator
Oh let's forget
about this call
There's no one there
I really wanted to talk to

Thank you for your time
Oh you've been so much
more than kind
You can keep the dime
from Jim Croce, Operator

Faded Rose

Need I say More? What would we do without memories. What would we do without music?

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Curiouser and Curiouser...

Just when I think I've figured things out, something changes.  That's the lesson of trying to provide support for elderly parents.  Go figure.  We're still not in control.  That said, there were a few small victories today.
For example, I finished the granny square skirt, and I'm delighted with the results.


Siuslaw, low tide


come on and get it.


yup. that's me.


this too.


you picked a fine time to leave me Lucille...


With four hungry children and a crop in the field...


near perfection. I'm happy, at last.


Remember when we each swam a mile in the 2x1 relay 1997?

On other fronts, I got Dad to the pool for the second time this week.  


Monday, January 24, 2011

Mondays will get you up and out of bed.

Up and at'em, girlfriend. Stronger & Stronger.
Still here, fighting the good fight.  My friends say I'm doing well.  Loyal follower, you be the judge.  Here's Mom after trying on her sweatsuit that Aunt Betty sent her for xmas.  It's true.  Therapy is progressing.  Mom is able to sit in a chair, and with the help of a walker get herself dressed without any help from me.  Wow.  And yes, this is a woman who was walking, drinking, dancing, shopping and driving only five short weeks ago.  Go figure.  As Pam says: Carpe Diem. 

Fred Meyer parking lot.  Need I say more?  People from my planet are everywhere, but especially Oregon. Duh.
Some people still have the nerve to ask: "How can I possibly be the unencumbered woman with all this drama?".  My reply?  It's a state of mind, girlfriend. It's a state of mind.  No woman is unencumbered, really, but the best of us can laugh at ourselves and sit in the sun for a moment and give Peter a great big hug when we really need it.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Jail Break!

Nothing like a day in Oregon for spotting alternative forms of transportation.  I've said it before and will say it again.  A ride like this in Eugene or Portland never comes as a surprise, but in old blue collar/retirement village Florence it's always worth the double take.  If you look close enough you can see this guy's coffee cup holder. 
This weekend marked the first field trip for Mom away from Regency.  Where would she like to go? The Elks Club, naturally.  Dinner, drinks, and the Norwoods playing music.  It was a delightful evening, and just about time for Scott and Ann to head back east.  If it weren't for Ann's experience providing support for a wheel chair Mama, the night might have been a little more rough.  Ann's a real pro, and next week it's my turn.  And then a few more phone calls, a few meaningful conversations with the decision making parties, and poof!  Scott and Ann are ready to exit to Eugene, then back home.  We stop at Nature's Garden for some yummy healthy Oregon hippie food and that's all she wrote.


Dinah Washington on KRVM Sunday morning.
As Scott said last night, KRVM, is Jivin John Etheridge still playing?  You betcha!!!!
We love this place! We should move here, right honey?

Friday, January 21, 2011

So here I go again, back on a big plane to the motherland.

Just ask Willie . And yes, this is a walk down memory lane. Over one of our sumptuous meals this summer on our way to the UP (that was a bike ride, loyal readers remember), we were naming the first concert we had ever gone to.  Me?  I took Betsy to Willie Nelson at Mac Court in 9th grade (Betsy was my tennis partner, good friend and we still exchange holiday cards). 

OK, it's an airport.

Up at 4AM, on a plane at 7AM, sleeping as we hurl across the country, only to land in San Francisco for a stop at Peet's for my first coffee of the day. As usual, the coffee is fabulous, the scone tastes exactly the same as every scone I've purchased at a Peet's in the East Bay, and sun is flooding into the terminal.  Yes, Sun! Warm sun, I sat and bathed in the sunlight for a good long hour before I had to catch my next flight.



People live here? I'm agog. (crossword puzzle word:cpw)
 Scott and Ann picked me up at the airport and after Cafe Yumm it was the much anticipated meeting with eldercare lawyer in Eugene.  Good old Eugene, the lawyer's office is this funky natural wood with contemporary design nested in greenery smack dab in the middle of what eons ago was a sort of boring neighborhood but now it's all coffee, yarn, bikes, natural food, you know the drill...

Check the redwood! Not to be found in MD or IL!

Karen visits an attorney

So it's no secret that Scott and Ann are trying to get themselves back to the west coast, and in my selfish heart there's no absence of a desire for them to move right back here, to Eugene. Wouldn't that solve a few problems?  And what better way to nestle up in the land of nostalgia and hope than to go by the old house.  Scott lived here from 3 to 18 then again when he bought the house from Mom and Dad for another 9 years or so in the 80s and 90's.  It's a great neighborhood in a fabulous town, but the '60s houses haven't held up terribly well.  Nevertheless, there are hybrids in practically every driveway, lots of funky yard decorations, bumper stickers, well, yeah, it is Eugene, after all.


Scott crashed his skateboard here & finally lost the scar.
 


my first concussion was at the base of this hill (bike crash).



Wednesday, January 19, 2011

The Year of the Afghan!

Started in the mid-1950's
My mother has been working on a knit afghan for virtually all of my life.  The thing sat in an enormous knitting basket for years and years and years.  When I was a teenager and had a habit of rummaging through family mementos and any craft-related items, I would occasionally suggest to Mom that I might take it upon myself to finish the beast and she usually said that she'd get around to it one day.  Sure enough, Mom did work on a few panels in her retirement, but let's be honest, it really wasn't her thing.  Her greatest knit accomplishment over the course of time was a huge collection of Christmas stockings for our family and godchildren, and grandchildren.  So in November I threw up my hands and insisted it was time for me to bring the afghan home.  I'm totally captivated by this idea of re-tooling the afghans from the attic and am beginning to form a bit of a collection.  This butterfly Afghan was supposed to be either 35 or 17 butterflies, but somewhere along the way only five or so were knit.  By the time I picked up the project there were quite a few solid panels, and not enough of one of the colors to complete any more than two butterflies, so this is what I came up with. Addie took the available panels, did a bit a planning and created what I think is a fabulous look.  Finished, and not even an offensive blend of the dramatically different tensions in knitting style.

Friday, January 14, 2011

NOW We're Talking...

this is all leftover wool from fifties afghans!
I've been banging around, looking for some new Crochet ideas, since the twenty or so needlework projects that I've got going right now don't seem to be enough.  I'm excited about a granny square mini-skirt that I'm working on, but it'll be a while before completion.  Then I stumbled upon a pattern book from the '70s called  The Gypsy Crochet Thing which is sure to rescue me from my current doldrums.  Can you imagine me walking around town with a pair of flared crochet pants?  The other day a fourth grade student asked how old I was....sixty? He asked.  I guess you would have to be sixty to have survived the original Gypsy Crochet Thing, but alas, it's just ol' me, and I LOVE Crochet clothing, with or without the irony.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Thank goddess for the arts....

...from Julie while she pursues her art:

Road at Ache


I was whispered along the road at Ache
toward the sun-puddled gate

the sum of yearning for
whatever makes you emptier

better weather, the absence of bees
but the year tells it better, all the hives

unraveling into summer, little mouths
flooding the May air to stillness.

elks club august 2010
My telling tints the blue air
whiter, storm-white open ear

listening to what will unspool next,
clover, apple-trees, and to what

I owe the mysterious reciter arriving
driving out dry the flood month

spelling me in every direction, unclear but
swarming, given this my year to hear

More Badass Women...

Marjan
By now, loyal follower, you know that there's nothing that makes me happier than talking about my running buddies in Florence, Oregon.  During my trip last week Kris mentioned that our friend Marjan, who moved from Florence to Portland a few years ago is running and in fantastic form.  In fact, I discovered that Marjan ran the Portland Half-Marathon in October and finished first in her age group (70-74)!
In a note to Kris, Marjan said: Wettest day of the year, but 14,000 of us did it anyway. 10-10-10.
I miss Marjan's sunny disposition and gritty attitude.  She's an old school progressive with great values and a terrific mind.  Something to strive for, indeed.

Sunday, January 2, 2011

You were...

 how close to the ocean and didn't go to the beach? Today, my last day in town, for now, I managed to drive Dad to Driftwood Shores so we could see the ocean. It was he who insisted we hike down to the water. 

I'm trying to demonstrate how to hold the camera with no viewfinder.
 

 This, by far, has been the most pleasant weather day all week.  We enjoy it while we can.  The eternity of it all, demonstrated by the ocean itself.  If only for a moment, sheer calm and beauty and grace.




Saturday, January 1, 2011

New Year's Day 5K

I miss being in Oak Park today because the Lake/Harlem cycling group rides no matter what the weather.  Fortunately, Florence hosts a similar informal event every year. This is the third or fourth time I've participated in the 5K run.  It has gotten bigger as the years go by.  The first time I ran, about fourteen years ago, there were about ten of us.  Now we're up to fifty or sixty. The organizers of the event rely on start photo to estimate number of participants.  Strictly old school event.

Happy New Year!!!!



our greentrees gang...the oldsters
 
 
my running buddies, Kris & Cathy


The three of us.
 I was the first woman to finish, which was a proud accomplishment for me in past year(s).  I have a feeling that this may be the last year I'm bestowed with that honor. Competition will be getting tougher and I'll be slowing down.
 

This gentleman is 85 and a fierce runner.
 
 
The ever handsome and charming David, Kris' husband and testament to health and wellness himself.


I was lucky to be included in the Greentrees gang, because we returned to Alice's light and sunny home where she had created a fabulous brunch spread. A gluten-free egg dish, fresh scones, fruit salad, ham and mimosas, topped off by home-made fudge.  We sat and enjoyed each other's company and the stunning view of our Siuslaw River.  A welcome respite for me during this busy visit.


Alice's living room has Afghan fever.  There are THREE Afghans created by herself.
One of my people!



The Nicest Man on Campus

Dad at the Elks. December 31st, 2010.  Over a Manhattan and Chiraz for me:

**************************************************************

"I retired in 1987."

"I had a good job, Karen. Never a day with a problem."

"The year after I retired, the university had it's first strike."

**************************************************************

Jack W. Steward, Personnel Director, University Oregon, ca. 1961-1987.
Also true, the woman who replaced Dad after he retired renamed the department. 
She called it Human Resources. Dad always says, "I just didn't like the sound of that...resources, it doesn't sound like it's dealing with people." Mom used to always say that people would stop her on campus and say: "You're married to Jack Steward? Why, he's the nicest man on campus!"

Lunchtime

With Mom more or less safely deposited at Regency, Dad and I looked at her salmon lunch and thought it was time for us to go out and eat lunch. Highway 101 houses most of the joints in Florence, and one that I haven't visited is Kathleen & Nina's (remember Laverne & Gail's?)

actually, you CAN say yummy enough, but it was good enough.

Crochet Fever!


I mention Laverne and Gail's for the obvious reasons. Small town, local joint, handwritten signs on wall, etc...but the highlights of Kathleen & Nina's included a crochet collection for sale at the cash register and a terrific pig collection.  I counted ninety seven pigs from where I was seated, but our server admitted that they have thousands of pigs.  Customers bring them in and they put them in boxes.  And so it goes:
Piggy times thousands


Piggy


Moving Day!

goodbye, Lotus Room
Discharge day!  Mom is heading out of the hospital for the greener pastures of a rehab facility.  We're all sad to leave the care of Peace Harbor employees. They are all sharp, friendly, helpful and good at what they do.  Yet another reason my parents don't come out and stay with us in IL.  I can't imagine this sort of care in Chicago for anybody but the most wealthy and/or connected folks.
It's a new world.  Wheelchairs and vans that carry them.
 I enjoyed the moments I shared with the cabdriver.  He, like most Oregonians I encounter, has never been to Chicago, until a year ago when he was in Rosemont for the World's Biggest Miniature Show!! He laughed at the irony....biggest miniature.  He and his wife made oodles of money in the high nineties, set up a miniature business, then the economy tanked and now what.  There's always cabdriving around Florence.  If you've been reading the news, the one sector of our population that hasn't been flattened by the economy is the elderly (for now)....well, also the rich, also, but who notices that?
Sunny day in Florence--a good thing.

Looks pleasant enough, but it's a double room with two tv's.  instant trouble.
 In case we were worried that the scenery from the nursing home would be blase, we are in Florence after all. So the air is clean, the greenery is lush.  Nice ground floor window. And behold...Holiday Cheer in the form of awful inflatable xmas scene with swirling snow.  Hydroelectric power forever!
holiday cheer a-la melrose park.
And so it goes, as Bob Seger says: Turn the Page.

Lotus Seafood Palace and Oregon Cars

I've been here in Florence for nearly a week and it wasn't until the day of hospital discharge did I finally take a photo of the plaquard guarding the entry to Mom's Room Number Twelve.  The Lotus owners had donated money to the construction of the hospital and my mother's room was named after Lotus.  The Lotus was a quite good, big, almost banquet style Chinese Restaurant that sat on the riverfront on our mighty Siuslaw from the late eighties to early two thousands.  Tony and Ivy built an enormous house further up the river that I used to admire as I ran up Rhododendron towards my parents home.  Tony and Ivy closed the restaurant and left town years ago.  Mom, in classic form, sort of grunted and rolled her eyes when I alerted her to the fact that she was in the Lotus Room.  This is a topic worthy of a single post, given my audience.  Given time, I might go by the old building (still up for auction) and get a shot of the Lotus itself.


Chinese Food, Drinks, Dancing, all at the Lotus

And then on to Mom's newest residence. I pulled up for a visit and tour before her arrival and was satisfied that this is the best place for her right now.  In fact, I must comment on the parking lot!  Oregon cars.  We love bumper stickers, so here we have three cars in a row sporting some sort of decal messaging. Most likely belonging to the employees of the Nursing Home.


Raider Nation
parent of soldier...etc. etc..




"Women Make Good Leaders, You're Following One" & "I Ran Into My Ex....So I Backed up and Hit Him Again"

"nonegenarian for peace"





  On to the fancy Assisted Living Home in town.  It's right across the street from the hospital and around the corner from Greentrees. No brainer, right?  Not so simple, but we're working on it, ever so slowly.  Peter says I should put ultimatums forth. Do as I say or I'm outta here.  Easy for him to say, he's a man, obviously.

But I was on a roll, touring the homes in town.  So after one facility I hauled it over to the other for another investigative trip.  Here, in the parking lot, another sight to behold, a great banana colored car. 
Back in the seventies when I hung out here, everybody drove cars like this one. 



Bonneville. Yeah, Baby.


I profess to miss the old Florence, and I do, most of the time, but then again, back then
we didn't have a terrific senior services, providing Florence award winning quality of life for seniors, year after year.  So these modern developments are good for my family. 

 Sadly, the construction of this fancy schmancy residence involved massive deforestation, clearing of wild rhododendrons, sea pines, and salal shrubs.  Moved sand and bear and other habitat. 

Old Florence.